Going backwards, (and speaking only to Presidential elections, as a think you are,) a lot of people who voted for Trump wanted him to win, like it or not. Obama was a very popular candidate, and I don't think any Democrat who voted for him ever thought of him of the lesser of two evils. Probably have to skip back after that, and discounting primaries, but Bill Clinton was very popular. So was Reagan. And Jimmy Carter, bless him. It really only became a "team sport" fairly recently, if you ask me.
Your point here is lesser of two evils, and I'm saying we have, as a country, voted that way less often than you think. You can dislike it when the options are poor, but I, personally, still think I trust my party, when it comes to important issues, like abortion, and the Supreme Court, so I'll go party, thank you. But remember, it was probably the people that went 3rd party that got us George W. Bush over Gore, with the Supreme Court playing a role, but you do have to respect calculations, 2-party system being the reality.
I don't think the hyperbole helps paint the picture. I think it distorts it. And it makes your argument sound more hysterical than perhaps you mean it to. And I also think this notion that "this is the most important election of our lives" is also fairly new. IMO, this became a feature much more post 9/11 and GWBush.
Being cynical and distrustful of politics and politicians is one choice. I can't help you with that. I find that, since we need politicians and politics, I chose to try to work within the system, and to some extent, especially at the grass-roots level, to believe in it. If you want to believe in this great experiment of democracy, you have to have some idealism, I think. And I believe, at this moment, it is imperiled in the US. (And in other countries around the world.) Cynicism doesn't help, IMO. If you don't like it, work from within. Don't just stand outside and complain about how corrupt it is.
It was a first try. Hopefully, it'll work better as we get used to it.
I actually think there is some movement for 3rd parties, more than before. Look at the split in the Republican party. It has actually been sort of 2 different parties for a long time, basically since Reagan got in bed with the fundamentalist Christians, and on to the Tea Party, etc. If John McCain wasn't dead, and Liz Cheney wasn't the only Republican left with a set of balls (yes, I mean that horrible metaphor for what it sounds like,) there would have been a rift in the Republican party a while ago. When the cult of Trump is over, there will eventually, I think, be some soul-searching, or at least vote-searching as to what that party will be. For now, it's being ruled by a far-right and Christian religious faction which is not sustainable amongst the general electorate. Or I certainly hope not.
I will read the article that Kieran posted, but I do think that throwing trans issues to the foreground is sensationalistic and not that useful. It's still pretty far on the margins, in terms of things that fuss the lives of most of us
This we agree upon, and it goes way back to Jim Crow and beyond.
I don't know why Obama didn't codify Roe, though I suspect it was that it seemed settled law, and he had loads other things to do. The rest of your point is so cynical. I cannot condone what you say as to the bolded above. Democrats have fought to protect the right of abortion at the grass roots level and at the high office level. I believe a lot of them do give an actual shit. More than a little. And you've got one thing very wrong: it's the Republicans who know that rich people will still get abortions, and just don't care about everyone else. Including that immensely important fetus, once it is born. Need child care? Parental leave? You're on your own.
Politicians don't get into politics, by and large, to fluff up their own nests. If they did, they'd go into private sector. I believe that most start out with good intentions. I'm sure for every earnest person in the game you could name me 5, and I do believe that politics and the money that it requires begins to wear down best intentions. Compromises which border on corruption, or fall into it, certainly happen. But I still believe that a good number of people who are voted on to work for their constituents actually keep trying to do that.