I hate NYE especially when I need to catch some sleep because I have scheduled my NY day activities for early morning and the whole population around me does not respect my schedule & won't let me rest. I don't understand what's the fuzz about 13 December 23:59 hysteria: it's just like other midnight to me. Just a number in the end. Other calendars have different conventions where to start counting Earth revolution around the Sun. But I don't hate the hysteria, I can understand & tolerate it. It's supposed to play out 20km+ from my house in the city. But I hate those (especially my neighbours in this case) who don't understand it and think everyone wants to be the part of the hysteria.
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I hate the fact that since the new millennium fireworks became part of the New Year's Eve celebrations. I used to like it when people just went first-footing & sung "Auld Lang Syne" & used N.Y.E. to think of mistakes they'd made in the past in order to learn from them & look to the future, making resolutions & plans for the future (which they'd hopefully keep). I think of the Roman God Janus whom January was named after when making my New Years resolutions. He had 2 faces, 1 which looked in the past & learnt from past mistakes & 1 looking to the future. Unbelievably, some people near me thought "Auld Lang Syne" & Robert Burns were English. I hated that & put them right. As you know they're Scottish.
I hate the fact I have to like things twice before my like is registered. It's an improvement to my 1st like on this new format site though which I had to like thrice before it registered. Once should suffice.
I hate when you get told not to read too much while you get new spectacles as you've been having itching, stinging & burning eyes & not seeing things as well as you should & dropping to sleep over books so end up needing an urgent eye test. I can't live without books. I need books. Life without books isn't worth living. Books are my refuge.
I also hate migraines. All types of them. The ones with really bad headaches all the way round your head then flashing lights & floaters are bad enough but the ones where you have watering eyes then 1 side of your face goes numb then the other & then you get a really bad headache on top of your head is really scary.
I also hate migraines. All types of them. The ones with really bad headaches all the way round your head then flashing lights & floaters are bad enough but the ones where you have watering eyes then 1 side of your face goes numb then the other & then you get a really bad headache on top of your head is really scary.
I hate this Coronavirus.
Not that I've got it but it's the worst virus I've experienced the effects of. There is hardly anything in the shops. Rationing is in place in most of the shops. Everything is closing down. Reduced shopping hours except some supermarkets which are opening up an extra hour just so elderly & vulnerable people can do their shopping. I've been told if things carry on there'll be no buses next week & the bus station will shut down.
Dad's got dementia, C.O.P.D., I.P.F. & asbestosis. He thinks he's got this Coronavirus but he just got out of the hospital last week & it only mentioned his diabetes, dementia, C.O.P.D., I.P.F., high blood pressure & asbestosis on his release form. He keeps collapsing. We daren't say anything to him as he collapsed & got sent to hospital with a blockage on his heart at 1 point. According to the information given to us about I.P.F. he will always have a cough. They've given him some cough tablets to take. Trying to tell Dad he hasn't got Coronavirus or any flu but scarring on the lungs from when he worked with asbestos & cattle & when we kept birds is impossible & I'm using language a 5 year old would understand.
I've been told that I'm only to do online work at home I get sent via e-mail at the moment & carry on my crafts & read the book clubs B.O.T.M. at the moment.
Both me & Mother have been depressed due to the home situation. (Dad has been doing things at home that put us at risk & we're powerless to stop him. He's also been very nasty & argumentative & just shouts orders. He wakes us up very early in the morning shouting orders & doesn't shut up until late at night.) We both went for help & were recommended a course where we meet others, get creative, express our feelings poetically & learn things to distract ourselves from what's going on. (We've been told if we weren't depressed they'd have been worried about us because it would mean we didn't understand the situation.) We also do other courses for similar reasons. They've all been cancelled & we need to get out, speak to "normal" people & have a break from the constant arguing.
Mind you, I've just got a cold so have had to take myself upstairs with emergency food & drink out of his way so it should be quieter.
Aargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm very sorry for the rant.
Not that I've got it but it's the worst virus I've experienced the effects of. There is hardly anything in the shops. Rationing is in place in most of the shops. Everything is closing down. Reduced shopping hours except some supermarkets which are opening up an extra hour just so elderly & vulnerable people can do their shopping. I've been told if things carry on there'll be no buses next week & the bus station will shut down.
Dad's got dementia, C.O.P.D., I.P.F. & asbestosis. He thinks he's got this Coronavirus but he just got out of the hospital last week & it only mentioned his diabetes, dementia, C.O.P.D., I.P.F., high blood pressure & asbestosis on his release form. He keeps collapsing. We daren't say anything to him as he collapsed & got sent to hospital with a blockage on his heart at 1 point. According to the information given to us about I.P.F. he will always have a cough. They've given him some cough tablets to take. Trying to tell Dad he hasn't got Coronavirus or any flu but scarring on the lungs from when he worked with asbestos & cattle & when we kept birds is impossible & I'm using language a 5 year old would understand.
I've been told that I'm only to do online work at home I get sent via e-mail at the moment & carry on my crafts & read the book clubs B.O.T.M. at the moment.
Both me & Mother have been depressed due to the home situation. (Dad has been doing things at home that put us at risk & we're powerless to stop him. He's also been very nasty & argumentative & just shouts orders. He wakes us up very early in the morning shouting orders & doesn't shut up until late at night.) We both went for help & were recommended a course where we meet others, get creative, express our feelings poetically & learn things to distract ourselves from what's going on. (We've been told if we weren't depressed they'd have been worried about us because it would mean we didn't understand the situation.) We also do other courses for similar reasons. They've all been cancelled & we need to get out, speak to "normal" people & have a break from the constant arguing.
Mind you, I've just got a cold so have had to take myself upstairs with emergency food & drink out of his way so it should be quieter.
Aargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm very sorry for the rant.
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It sounds like you're having a rough time. I hope things improve... but it might be a while given the current virus situation.
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It seems you are part of the 1%. The 1% that have it tougher. Be strong, show strength.
All the best.
I am. Thank you very much. We were just starting to get the ball rolling with repairs to things Dad damaged to make them safe & getting carers in as we couldn't cope with it 24/7 like we have been doing when this happened. Talking about the virus situation, I've had mild flu-like symptoms for the last couple of days so I've had to avoid Dad. It's given me a break from the arguments but I feel sorry for Mother.
(I'm very sorry for the late response but I was waiting for home-work the other day which came late as my Manager had a lot to do & yesterday I got stuck into it. I'd already been given the crafty home-work & the B.O.T.M. from works book club but I was waiting for the archiving home-work. I had the night free but the situation has got me very emotional so I didn't know whether I'd upset myself answering.)
I've since decided although I can't do the soc. interaction part of my treatment I can easily be creative, read up on the well-being part & learn new things. My job helps me with the creativity & learning new things side of that. I've been busy reading, doing my knitting & doing my home-work. (A couple of days ago I developed mild flu-like symptoms so have to keep away from Dad. I feel better after a bit of a break. I've got lots of sewing & knitting to do. I've got lots of books to read & lots of home-work to do. I feel much calmer.) *I'm very sorry for the late response but I was waiting for my archiving home-work the other day. It came late. I got stuck into it yesterday.*
Thank you very much.
I was going to say that although I love reading & enjoy writing I didn't like research as I don't like looking things up because it means I don't know the answers & makes me feel thick & I prefer asking others as it makes for interesting conversations & I like to see how smart others are but I'm actually enjoying doing some of the research tasks I've been set.
Thank you very much, Moxie. I'm trying my best. They are. They're going to get better when this virus decides to go as help will be on the way. I got told no-one could deal with this alone & got put in contact with the right people. It just takes time. It is. I've got plenty of books to keep me happy & occupied too.
I hate dementia because it caused Dad to do dangerous things & argue all the time & we never really had the chance to say how we really felt before he died. (The last quality time we had we watched most of "Night at the museum: Secret of the tomb" & talked about that.) At 1 point he didn't want me in his house because of it & another time he didn't know who I was. I was just a woman to him. There was a time he didn't want to talk to me & he wouldn't talk to me. He might have lived longer if he remembered how to take his inhalers properly & his medication as he wouldn't let us help him. When anyone thinks of dementia they normally only think of the confusion & the memory loss. They don't think about the dangerous things people do when they have it & the constant arguments or the fact that they keep you up until late & wake you up very early in the morning & you can't sleep as you're constantly worrying what they're doing. It was very hard as he said he didn't want carers or to go in a care home so me & Mother were trying to look after him as he could get very abusive. It got us down & the Dr. said we had to go out, do creative things & talk to normal people so we wouldn't get like him through influence. We were going to get carers after this was over because the Dr. said he needed them not just for his sake but for ours too. I also hate the fact that I could get it in future as it's hereditary. All my friends & family are saying I won't as I read too much for that but I'm worried because I don't want to be as argumentative as Dad was &/ do dangerous things like he did.
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As 1 of the things Dad died of was asbestosis they (coroners) decided they needed an inquest. I hated having to give a statement because the questions they ask make you feel guilty. It wasn't my fault Dad worked with asbestos in the past so why should I have had to be made to feel that way. I was glad when it was over & they returned the verdict as I couldn't sleep wondering why they asked the questions they asked & not ones which I thought were more relevant to the circumstances & what was going to happen to me. (Open).
I think your dad got argumentative not because he succumbed into Alzheimer's but because that was his personality i.e. the way he used to interact with people. While he could control his behaviour most of his life, in the final stages he lost that control, as much as he lost his immediate memory of his surroundings. Alzheimer's aggravates any personality/behavioural idiosyncrasies we have. If you tend to be "argumentative" or "explosive" now, you will be more so if you succumb to Alzheimer's. And you can do nothing about it so you should not worry about it. You can't help it because no matter what you current (or future if you work hard on it) personality is, Alzheimer's will always ruin the life of yours next to kin. They will feel like their lifelong work to be with you and support you, becoming lost, like you are destroying all emotional life. Maybe better to just decrease the chance of getting Alzheimer's in the first place by eating healthy, being physically & mentally active, etc. Your risk is higher due to hereditary nature of that nasty disease, but you're not necessarily doomed to get it, just higher risk. In the end higher risk does not mean certainty and you can influence it. BTW my dad died from Alzheimer's but I'm not worrying about it. But I'm trying to decrease the risk for myself by not doing the wrong things my dad did: sedentary lifestyle, fatty food, overweight, no social connections.
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Indeed, the investigators are always nasty: they don't understand the word compassion. I'm not surprised they in your case, also don't understand tht their work is useless, i.e: does not make a difference in the grand scheme of things. They just do the job they've been paid for, likely to establish the culpability of the company or others that might be responsible for employing your dad some 30y ago when he inhaled the stuff. Maybe no company nor anyone was involved and it's impossible to establish any guilt and you know it very well but the investigators keep drilling like stupid energiser bunnies because they must do it in order to receive their money.
Don't you just hate it when you're listening to a cassette & the player chews it? You get it out & wind it back round. Then you try it again. It happens again & you tear the tape getting it out so have to throw it away.
I hate bad news & I seem to be bombarded with it recently. My guinea-pig died today. Aaaaaaaaaaaargh! No more bad news, please! If I get anymore bad news I shall sccrrreammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
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